It is no secret. I have gone on several online dates in my life. Although I haven’t been on one in a few months now, whenever I come across an interesting article about the subject, or find an interesting profile on Tinder or OkCupid, I feel the need to write about it, explore it, and understand it from the perspective of where I am at today in my life.
This particular article, written for Wired, tells the story of a mathematician that essentially “hacked” OkCupid to find the perfect gal for him. Seriously, if you’ve ever went on any online date & have come out frustrated as hell with the situation, or the other person, or yourself, read the above article. This guy spent hours, days, weeks writing code in Python to find love. Some would say his journey ended when he found a way to get messages from 40 girls a day (which is funny to me, because I’m pretty sure the attractive girls probably get more than that a day from guys without hacking the system), but I think McKinlay (the mathematician) would argue his true self journey started when he started dating these test subjects outside of the lab and in the field. Sometimes 2 dates a day!
It is a little weird…but it is also a really raw story of one man’s quest to find love. It is also pretty funny with some of the statistics he found and is the highest trending article I’ve seen on Wired for awhile.
Seriously, read the article. We are all searching. Whether its for love, or if its to just figure out our place in this cruel and beautiful universe.
It took McKinlay 88 first dates to find the woman he was looking for. The most poignant part of this story comes at the end, when his future wife, first date #88 says, “People are much more complicated than their profiles. So the way we met was kind of superficial, but everything that happened after is not superficial at all. It’s been cultivated through a lot of work.”
I think we can all agree with that statement; whether you met your love online or not, relationships take work. No matter how much you “hacked” it to start, the true “hacking” or “work” begins on that second date.
Anyway, what’d you guys think of this article? Let me know in the comments below!